lunes, 8 de enero de 2018
otro borrador para la memoria
uno, fundamental....
he vuelto a divertirme con la vida....
ha vuelto a interesarme...
me vuelve a apetecer "inventarme" la vida....
he vuelto a creer que... una vida mejor es posible....
sí, me divierte (mucho) hacer los test, reconocerme, reirme de mi propio desastre de forma de ser...
reconocerme en la cantidad de estrategias que he "inventado" (sin saberlo) a lo largo de mi vida para sobrevivir....
sí, me divierte (mucho)
me/lo echaba tanto de menos....
objetivo cumplido, sí.
Centrando el tema, y tal...
lo malo (y lo bueno) es que me gusta....
soy como se debe ser... ni ná ni menos....
sorry por las inconveniencias... si total nadie está obligado a soportarlas.... y ya... oiga...
yo en mi rinconcito...
como decía aquello de...
si nos encontramos será maravillos, si no nos encontramos no habrá nada que hacer....
pues eso...
volviendo al tema... la idea de esto del curso de coaching era certificarse....
hago un inciso, otro, por ahí también he leído que los intj somos superbuenos coach, asesores, directores de empresas (yo siempre he dicho que tengo el mal del asesor, si es que me auto-conozco que te cagas)...porque tenemos independencia de pensamiento, podemos "hacer ver" un perspectiva diferente ( acertada) al asesorado....
la gente va al coach precisamente para conseguir "algo diferente" pues hija.... diferente soy, otra cosa no, ... pero te vas a hartar de "diferencias",
tenemos eso de los procesos, de la visión de largo plazo, las etapas hasta conseguir un objetivo etc etc así como superinteriorizado...
no tenemos empatía (qué le vamos a hacer!) pero lo sustituimos con una intuición (sobrenatural) ....
por eso acertamos siempre, sabemos siempre... y vamos ahí mismo.... a la raíz de la cuestión
(ay, yo es que necesitaría encontrarme con alguien como yo para solucionarme lo mío... bueno, en realidad sería para que me diga... chica, pero si eres genial, yo lo sé, tú lo sabes y lo demás nos da igual, ya se darán cuenta, yo que sé.... )
en fin... que no me voy a "perder" en eso del deficit de las habilidades sociales....hasta aquí hemos llegado sin habilidades sociales (oiga) y yo aquí he venido a hacerme coach....
a hacerme después voluntario.... para conseguir las horas de prácticas en plan win-win....
(oiga, las habilidades sociales también se "depuran" un poco así.... haz lo que sabes hacer , no lo que no sabes hacer... en los test dice que caigo mejor cuando no quiero caer bien, doy fé, por eso siempre acabo "encajando" y cayendo bien a gente que no me interesa nada... aysssssssssss, que será de mí)
en fin... que centrarse.... a hacer bien los del curso y ya...
paso a paso....
es por aquí....
lo sé
estoy convencida de ello....
y los test dicen que.... siempre tengo (tenemos) razón....
mañana tengo mi primer día como coach....
y
pasado, el segundo como coachee... (intentaré no llevar el tema a "las relaciones sociales" y centrar el tema (objetivo) en lo de "ser coach acreditado" y si pare ello tengo que "mejorar" mis habilidades de comunicación, pues bien.... no diré yo que no... estoy dispuesta a asumir el coste, que tampoco será mucho porque si yo entiendo e interiorizo el "para qué".... ya está...y en este caso el para qué lo tengo clarisisisimo , auqneu a veces se me olvida un poco.... sí... y me sumerjo, otra vez, en las procelosas aguas del "es que yo no me entiendo con la gente y la verdad es que me da igual, cansinos, los test demuestras que yo estoy bien, puedes tú decir lo mismo, pues eso... aquí el problema no lo tengo yo, oiga", no, por ahí no...)
vamos, rafa!
domingo, 7 de enero de 2018
Inteligencia emocional....
Lo de "la mujer de mi vida" va a ser un poco imposible (parece ser)
ARCHITECT RELATIONSHIPS
In romance, people with the Architect personality type approach things the way they do with most situations: they compose a series of calculated actions with a predicted and desirable end goal – a healthy long-term relationship. Rather than falling head over heels in a whirlwind of passion and romance, Architects identify potential partners who meet a certain range of pre-determined criteria, break the dating process down into a series of measurable milestones, then proceed to execute the plan with clinical precision.
In a purely rational world, this is a fool-proof methodology – but in reality, it ignores significant details that Architects are likely to dismiss prematurely, such as human nature. Architects are brilliantly intellectual, developing a world in their heads that is more perfect than reality. People entering this world need to fit this fantasy, and it can be incredibly difficult for Architects to find someone up to the task. Needless to say, finding a compatible partner is the most significant challenge most Architects will face in life.
Politeness Is Artificial Good Humor
Sentiment, tradition, and emotion are Architects’ Achilles Heel. Social standards like chivalry are viewed by Architects as silly, even demeaning. The problem is, these standards have developed as a means of smoothing introductions and developing rapport, of managing expectations, the basis of personal relationships. Architects’ propensity for frank honesty in word and action tends to violate this social contract, making dating especially difficult for them.
As they mature, Architects will come to recognize these factors as relevant, incorporating pace and emotional availability into their plans. But the meantime can be dangerous, especially for more Turbulent Architects – if they are shot down too many times they may come to the conclusion that everyone else is simply too irrational, or simply beneath them intellectually. If cynicism takes hold, Architects may end up falling into the trap of intentionally displaying intellectual arrogance, making solitude their choice rather than happenstance.
Always Remain Cool
The positive side of Architects’ “giving up” is that they are most attractive when they aren’t trying to be attractive, working in a familiar environment where their confidence and intelligence can be seen in action. Allowing others to come to them is often Architects’ best strategy, and if they perceive a potential to the relationship, they will spare no effort in developing and maintaining stability and long-term satisfaction.

As their relationships develop, Architects’ partners will find an imaginative and enthusiastic companion, who will share their world and at the same time grant a huge degree of independence and trust. While Architects may never be fully comfortable expressing their feelings, and may spend more time theorizing about intimacy than engaging in it, they can always be relied upon to think out a mutually beneficial solution to any situation.
But when it comes to emotional satisfaction, Architects are simply out of their element. Not every partner has the sort of fun Architects do in addressing conflicts and emotional needs as puzzles to be analyzed and solved. Sometimes emotions need to be expressed for their own sake, and putting every outburst under the microscope isn’t always helpful. If this becomes habit, or Architects think it may, they are capable of simply ending the relationship, rather than dragging things out.
Truth and Morality
Architects are bewilderingly deep and intelligent people, bringing stability and insight into their romantic relationships. They prize honest, open communication, and all factors of the relationship are open to discussion and change, but this must be reciprocated. Architects do what they think is right, and sometimes that comes across as cold – it’s important to know that Architects don’t make these decisions lightly. They spend a tremendous amount of time and energy trying to understand why and how things go wrong, especially if they’ve devoted themselves to the relationship, and they certainly hurt deeply when things fall apart.
The challenge is finding partners who share those same values – though Intuitive (N) types are uncommon, they may be a must for many Architects, as sharing this trait creates an immediate sense of mutual belonging. Having one or two balancing traits, such as Extraversion (E), Feeling (F), or Prospecting (P) can help to keep a relationship dynamic and growth-oriented by keeping Architects involved with other people, in touch with their emotions, and open to alternate potentials.
Pd. Lo jodido de esto es que te describen perfectamente con una precisión milimetrica pero de... soluciones ni media palabra, oiga.
Estoy buscando en los internet como o quién lo arregla (ahora que ya sabemos qué pasa) , supongo que también a alguien se le habrá ocurrido algún tipo de "cura" o remedio. No sé... digo yo. Ahí está la gracia del tema.
Una vez encontrado el remedio, pues ya. Al menos, me entretendré en (com)probar si funciona tanto en lo profesional como en lo personal. Y por fin consigo "pasar de pantalla" (coño,ya)
Pd2. Ay, recopilar datos infinitos e intentar encontrar qué es lo que no funciona de forma lógica, es precisamente lo que hago siempre y no debería hacer! Y estoy haciendo.
Mierdaaaaaaaaaaaa!
Sin comentarios...
sábado, 6 de enero de 2018
Esquejes...
jueves, 4 de enero de 2018
Corto, pego y Suscribo.
Carta de Reyes
Pasado el examen de conciencia con un cinco raspado, oso pediros cuatro cositas de nada
Queridos Reyes Magos, heme aquí otro enero escribiendo la lista de deseos que jamás podré comprar ni ultrarrebajados en ningún outlet. Este año he sido todo lo buena y lo pérfida a lo que me impele mi naturaleza, me he metido hasta las ingles en más charcos de los precisos, he ido 20 veces a por lana para salir 30 trasquilada y, creo, he salvado el pellejo lo bastante dignamente como para dormir cinco horas del tirón antes de que me despierte el zarpazo del miedo a todo y a nada. A ver, santa no es una, majestades. He cometido los siete pecados capitales e infinitos veniales. Habré roto tantos platos, defraudado tantas expectativas y causado al menos tanto daño como pupa me han hecho a mí misma. Pero he sido lo bastante autoexigente y autoindulgente como para lapidarme y perdonarme yo solita y seguir viva y razonablemente cuerda. Así pues, pasado el examen de conciencia con un cinco raspado, oso pediros cuatro cositas de nada.
Un cuarto de serenidad y criterio para distinguir lo importante de lo urgente y no consumir más energía de la imprescindible en esfuerzos inútiles. Otro de pasión desatada, porque no solo de templanza vive el hombre ni la mujer ni el tercer sexo. Otro cuartillo de humor y distancia para sobrellevar el horror y la pena y reírme de todo y de todos, pero sobre todo de mi sombra. Y, la cuadratura del círculo, un rejón de empatía para que me revuelva la injusticia cinco minutos antes de comprarme el enésimo pingo que no necesito. Si, además, los pajes traen algo de paciencia, humildad y amor propio, ya me ponéis en mi sitio. O sea, lo de siempre. Salud, dinero y amor, que dice el bolero, entendiendo por salud la ausencia de dolor de cuerpo y alma; por dinero, los recursos para mantener calientes huesos y espíritu. Y por amor, el reflejo de una en los ojos de otros para no sentirse una náufraga a la deriva en la cola de las rebajas de Zara. El resto sobra.
pd. releyendo la carta (decenas de veces) .... estoy pensando que me apetece ,quiero, me puedo permitir, me merezco un año kamikaze... sí... me lo merezco.... a ver cuánto me duran... las ganas.
martes, 2 de enero de 2018
Mensaje en una botella... ( o en un post)
Cris
el contador dice que es de Madrid (aunque el contador falla un montón, a mi misma lo mismo me pone en Ibiza que en Barcelona, ya ves tú...), también dice que se pasa por aquí de vez en cuando , no siempre... de ahí lo de "mensaje en un post... qué posibilidades hay de que lo lea y le apetezca....
pues... una o ninguna....
pero si hay alguna posibilidad por pequeña que esta sea...
yo juego...
pd. 2018 empieza fuerte, acabo de solicitar en la intranet de mi empresa un puesto de gerente de zona en una bonita zona del norte de España.... lo pongo aquí para que se gafe (como todo lo que pongo aquí), Ahora me ha entrado el cague, coño como salga y a lo tonto, hoy día 02/01/2018 haya finiquitado mi estancia en Madrid.... va a ser para reírse (o llorar) pero a lo grande, muy a lo grande, oiga.
(entiendo que hay superpocas posibilidades, lo habrán publicado para promocionar a alguien de la zona que ya tendrán elegido, lo he solicitado para que "me vean" en RRHH, comprobar si mis evaluaciones son tan buenas como dicen y que mi jefe esté informado de que tiene que valorarme por lo que valgo... y me tengan un poco en cuenta, si eso, para futuras plazas... que vean que estoy abierta y que no me tienen segura (que como no doy problemas pues parece que no estoy, eso decía mi madre siempre de mi "é como quén non a ten" (en el contexto, se supone que era bueno)".. a ver qué pasa... estas cosas ya verás tú... se sabe como empiezan... pero no como acaban, ay madre.... miedo me da, Me han enviado un mail automático de rrhh, que han recibido la solicitud y que se pondrán en contacto por teléfono con los primeros seleccionados, los no seleccionados recibirán un mail de "mira , pues que no, sigue con tu vida, así como de trankis")
















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What is your question?I feel like I need to add my two cents here, since I'm definitely an INTJ, but I disagree with most of these answers. At first I thought that it was because I'm a woman, but now I suspect it's something else.
The biggest thing to understand about an INTJ is that we are entirely pragmatic, meaning that we look at life with a realistic, sensible lens to take our lofty, ambitious goals (goal driven) and make them into discrete, achievable steps. We're always working toward a high goal by completing smaller, planned actions.
Life is a game. Situations are puzzles. Really, life is the best game. People need to be figured out, so I can best predict what they'll do. This makes business quite fun. I'm a product manager and business is a huge strategy game with many players, lots of moving pieces, and lots of competition internally and externally. I can't tell you how much fun this is. Life is my favorite game.
People are tiring after a while, but we can choose to love them. Because of the incredible pragmatic approach most INTJs have about life, we realize that interaction with people is necessary to achieve our high ambitions in life. Sometimes we actually enjoy people, too. I'm being facetious. We're still people and, although we approach life pragmatically, we can still choose to love people. I'm married and have an amazing daughter. I still remember when I made a choice to love my husband (when we were dating). I choose to love my family every day. Love, to me, is not a feeling I get all the time, but a choice to put their well-being before my own. They're not pawns to be used, but people to cherish. That said, being an introvert, I need some time each day to be by myself and recharge.
Confidence can be confused with arrogance. Most everything I say is said with a tone of confidence. I make statements, not guesses, not hedged bets, and I make these statements confidently. That comes across sometimes in a know-it-all or arrogant tone. Communication is all about relaying information from one brain to other brains, right? Therefore, it doesn't matter what the communicator intended, but what the listener heard. I've worked on my tone throughout the years. Instead of arrogant or authoritarian tones, I've tried to tone it down to soft confidence. This helps me achieve my goals. See: pragmatic above.
Information is a golden, delightful web. Oh, goodness, am I curious. I'm like a little, inefficient sponge. I wish I could remember everything that was thrown my way, because then I could make connections and see patterns more efficiently. Do you see my thinking here? I'm constantly striving for more information, but for a reason. I need to constantly gather information, to help me see patterns (which INTJs tend to see with ease), and use those patterns to inform my life strategy, which is broken into discrete steps to help achieve my lofty goals.
Every process needs to be efficient and eventually standardized. Time is a precious commodity. We can always make more money, but you can't make more time. Time is out of our control. Therefore, everything we do needs to take as little time as possible, which means it needs to be the best product, best process as possible to reduce any time spent in the future. Processes should be standardized, so we reduce the time spent on anything similar in the future. In fact, I can't do something without thinking about how to make it more efficient - even making a sandwich or putting my daughter in her car seat. I mean, really, every single thing I do needs to be efficient. I've had to learn how to enjoy people, love people and not put this need for efficiency above relationships. It's a process.
My approach is direct. Oh dear, this has been a hurtle. My language is direct (reason: see efficiency paragraph above). I say what I mean, no more and no less. You can read between the lines, but then you'll be inferring something that wasn't intended. You'd think that this would make me a bad negotiator, but I've learned to work with my directness to be a different and effective negotiator. My writing, on the other hand, tends to have more than one meaning, but it's apparent only to those to whom it's intended. Problem solving quickly favors to the most direct and realistic approach possible. My relationships are direct and defined. Conversations are direct, so it's difficult for an INTJ to maintain small talk, although I see the importance of it now, so I've learned the small talk skill.
I agree with what others have written. Ideas are our forte. We identify with our ideas.
An authority figure doesn't mean much to INTJs, but their capabilities definitely do. If our supervisor or the CEO has great vision and strategy, we'll gladly follow, but if their ideas and direction don't make sense, good luck getting an INTJ to go along with the plan. We can't do something that doesn't make sense. We just can't. I'm trying to figure out a way to explain why, but I can't. We live with meaning in every action and see the outcome of our actions very clearly.
I could go on, but you can read other answers. Most are pretty good.